something like it.

You know, the only thing that’s sadder than not being able to be with someone you like, is having to be a good friend to him/her.

And I’m not talking about some ordinary friend that you meet once or twice in a year kind of friend, I’m talking about the friend who’s always there with his listening ears wide open to stories about any sweet dandy weekends that the girl’s had with her recently new-found crush. And that’s when the friend gets crushed at the same time. Now it’s only about time where things get worse and next thing you know, they’re happily in a relationship.


Now the only thing that’s sadder than being a good friend to a person you are crazy about, who’s now in a relationship with someone else, is having to listen and witness the happiness that is proudly splurged right there before your eyes. There is no way you could escape and, if anything, it’s like rubbing your face in it, unless you end the friendship, which is so unlikely, cos you don’t have the heart to leave him/her, cos at the very moment, you literally love him/her more than yourself, cos if you probe yourself really carefully and honestly, deep deep deep down inside, you’re still hoping that things will just flip the other way round. Which is stupid, if I may add.

It’s funny how a person could appeal so disarming to you that you strip all immunity and let down your guard. Whatever it is, it’s thick like quicksand and you’re just gonna pickle in it.

And let’s say if things get a little bumpy between the two of them, first thing he/she needs is a little of nothing but your shoulder. There’s no rocket science in there. And being typically a place to crash that you are, you give the most consolation, you keep him/her positive, and you even give solutions, for god’s sake. But despite all your effort as a friend being a good friend to a so called best friend of yours, you set your eyes sparkling and gloat as naturally and as humanly possible. And don’t say you won’t, cos after all, we’re all humans.

People say it takes half of the time of being in love with a person to finally forget him. So, if you’re in love with a person for a year, then take as much time as six months to allow yourself to mope and wallow in grief. But more often than not, you wake up one day, and next thing you know, it’s been six months, he/she moves on and you still feel exactly the same. But that’s just life anyway.


I couldn’t help but wonder, is there such thing like staying friends for the rest of your life with a person you’re once in love with?

Or do you wish that you’ve never met him/her?

But I’d say, sometimes friendship might offer more to you, even more than you could give. And by the end of the day, you might end up getting something less transient and who knows you’d one day regret not risking to cross path with that someone. If you could handle a heartbreak, could a successful friendship be that far behind?

Somehow, I'm an optimist in this thing called friendship. Or someting like it. I know some people are the pessimists, but that's just me.