Dear mothers and mothers-in-law

Have I mentioned that I also made pizza several weeks ago besides cupcakes? Well yes, I made pizza! Also at winny’s with mikka too, and we made 2 pans of our so called meat lover, of course with the sliced and minced meats which by the way sounds more like Chinese. No? haha.. anyway, the topping was blardy nice, you could actually call it a totally different dish with just the topping, without the bread. I mean, the topping itself was nice without the bread cos lamentably, the bread tasted like rubber, and to some extent, was uneatable. Hehe.. So yep, we pretty much failed. >.<

I remembered the other day when my mom told me about a friend who’s in her 60s, who’s been a genuinely real housewife all her life, and faced with her live-in daughter-in-law. Now her daughter-in-law is a busy career woman who works 9 to 5 every day, sometimes with late working hours, and who’s too tired to deal with house-chores in the evening after work. But this woman seemed slightly discontented having a daughter-in-law like that, and complained it to my mom when they were chatting the other day. She said something insinuating like ‘Look at my daughter-in-law. She never helps with daily chores, seldom gets down from her bedroom upstairs or helps with the sweeping and washings. She just stays in her bedroom all the time after work. Just look at the daughters-in-law these days.”

Here’s the thing though. First of all, she’s blessed having a woman of that caliber as her daughter-in-law, who’s smart, strong, and a good provider besides her husband. Secondly, I was too sick of hearing this kind of thing where women are supposed to be able to do house-chores like it is destined since we’re born and I hate it to the core when people say “How come that you’re a girl but cannot wash dishes, sweep, and mop.” like the abilities of washing, sweeping and mopping are attached to women since they’re embryos and that it’s some kind of a sin if they are not good at chores. Well I tell you what I think, women are brain-washed over centuries that they have to do those kinds of things just because they are supposed to, and no, women are not supposed to. It’s up to each person whether or not one wants to, and I appreciate those who choose to do cos I think it’s a good point being good at that thing. But why can’t people respect others’ decision to be rather inclined to do something else, but see it as a shortcoming instead? Why among all of a woman’s good points, people try to draw this one issue out to drag her down to “the daughters-in-law these days”? It is so unfair that women have to do all those things under the duress of proving that they are a she or housewife-y enough for their in-laws.

From my point of view and no matter from which aspect I try to perceive it, I can’t see how a wife staying at home and not going to work is okay, but not when a wife is out there working and not doing chores. Can’t people just see how being able to survive out there outshines house-chores? Why is it considered okay on one side and not the other way round? At least, make it balanced and stop pointing it out as a “shortcoming”. Since when do house-chores become a standard of a woman? People are so full of crap sometimes.

Later at the end of the conversation, my mom told me something that made this whole thing look even more ludicrous. Apparently, they have two maids at home, who as far as I know, were employed to help with the chores, and no, they were absolutely not employed to just sit there and watch their employers do the chores!

Two maids for fuck’s sake. Why did she even bother worrying her daughter-in-law not doing house-chores every day? And believe it or not, she has a daughter who’s also out there working every day, and not doing the chores. But that is fine with her. So it’s okay if it’s your own daughter, but not when it comes to other people’s daughter. What a nepotistic mother-in-law.